That's my two cents. If we can say them together, great; if not. Good luck to both of you on working this out, and if you decide that interfaith marriage is something you can handle and your gentlemen turn out to be the right men for you, then welcome to the club. But daytime game is the key. My dad was in the bishopric for most of my childhood, and I was never the person you describe here. A quiet, hard working immigrant but dedicated and faithful. Finally, it is a very tight-knit community and despite efforts to insulate you from conversion-minded missionaries, you will be exposed to a lot of people that think, like this woman does, that atheists are without a moral compass. Love is a relation where compromise sacrifices and understanding matters a lot. I must admit that this life comes with a lot of surprises.
You'll know pretty quick where she stands. I'm so happy to know another doctor's wife. It is soooo difficult to cope. There is much that needs to change and many hearts to educate but if we doubt some of the fundamentals then why not all of them. Going back in time, it was never encouraged for people to marry outside their faith and this covered most christian religions in the United States. Keep your options open. With his compartmentalized mind, if I walk away, he will close that door and move on. But if you are with someone who is plainly selfish or dishonest or mean, then don't let them use their occupation as an excuse. Sometimes I feel burned out, but I have to carry on. And if you can make it to the Tree of Life and still be with your partner, guess what.
From a guy's perspective, I was dating a doctor who was going through her final exams to become a registered specialist. He also has sacrificed a more easy lifestyle. I know a guy who had a hobby of corrupting Mormon girls he was abused by his TBM parentsand I'm told you're both right. But now, we embrace our spiritual differences.
They will serve as a constant reminder to her that she needs to conform- and you won't be wearing any. If you end up marrying a true believing Mormon, your marriage will be a threesome. And if you do belong to a ward full of cretins, you must do everyone a favor and just ignore them until they go extinct.