Butt stuff is an entirely different type of play from oral and vaginal sex for many reasons. Those who love anal sex are often appreciative of its highly intimate nature and the unique sensation of fullness it gives the receiver. Having said that, butt stuff should be something you choose to do — not something you do to please anyone but yourself, and certainly not something anyone can be pushy or coercive about doing with you. Because everyone deserves to have a beautiful bum experience every time, here are seven tips that will help you prepare for and then enjoy yours. First things first: Figure out your safer-sex approach. Keep in mind that if you're not using a condom, anal sex is a higher-risk sex act , especially for the receiver. HIV and hepatitis are easily spread this way because they're transmitted through blood-to-blood or semen-to-blood contact. To minimize risk, you can use a latex condom like this one from Sustain or polyisoprene condom which is free of allergens, like the Skyn condom from Lyfestyles during anal sex with a penis or dildo, unless you can completely sterilize the dildo. You should also utilize dental dams during anal rimming, and nitrile gloves during manual penetration.


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I was in high school when Sex and the City premiered, and like many women of my generation and the generations that followed, that show taught me a lot about sex. I knew that gay men engaged in it, but I held on to some pretty old-school notions when it came to why straight women would do it. Whoever heard of Mrs. Up-the-Butt might reside. The experience was, for lack of a better word, awful. But on top of the physical discomfort, I also felt ashamed. It was humiliating that this was what he wanted and humiliating that I consented.
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Dun dun dun: butt sex. Below are 13 things every woman should know before trying butt sex:. The key to enjoying anal sex, Van Kirk said, is being comfortable with your body and what feels good to you. Her first tip? Try it on your own. Starting with the right toy is key. While anal beads or butt plugs work well for a first anal toy, Van Kirk suggested something that vibrates. Secondly, your partner needs to be looking for cues of discomfort and be open to having some feedback during the process. And not just physical but also emotional because you have a whole other level of trust with one another.
Emma Kaywin, a Brooklyn-based sexual health writer and activist, is here to calm your nerves and answer your questions. Q: My boyfriend has been talking to me about trying anal sex. I'm open to the idea, but I want to know more about it first. Like, do we need to use a condom if we're monogamous, or can I get infections if I don't? How can I make sure it doesn't hurt? What can I expect it to feel like , and how can I make it as much fun for myself as possible? Will it hurt? Will you like it? Your anus has thousands of sensitive nerve endings in and around it that can give you pleasure. Most of these nerve endings are concentrated around the opening, but the outer part of the rectum also has them.